Today’s Priority is Different

                If I am still an unemployed or still studying in university, I will give a shot for the exchange program selection, which is PPAN (Pertukaran Pemuda Antar Negara). But today’s priority is totally different with the one I made few years back. Maybe you are asking why I never tried that during I was in college? The answer is simple, during my college life, my focus is on debating stuff. I sacrificed almost everything I have just for the sake of debate. Include missing out those PPAN selections. 

A New Year Note

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                I hope it is not too late to say, have a great new year of 2014, may the odd be in your favour, my lovely friends. As usual, as we started a brand new year, most of us will have our own resolution, aren’t we? But then, after reflecting to my 2013 resolution list, which many of then did not came true, so I have decided to have my 2014 dream list. Not as much as before, right now I really want to focus on few things that are really important for me.

Perjalanan

          Tak terasa, hampir 11 bulan terlewati di sebuah kota yang digelar ‘Kota Minyak’ yang sekarang kian dibabat abis kuasa asing. Suka duka, pahit manis, semuanya bercampur jadi satu ibarat campuran air + bahan kimia + semen yang diaduk hampir tiap hari dalam sebuah alat dengan blade yang mirip punya ibu kalian di dapur. Aku tak perlu bercerita banyak tentang pekerjaanku di perusahaan asal Perancis ini, biar aku ga dibilang memprovokasi semakin banyak anak-anak Indonesia untuk bergabung disini. 

Preparation : Savings

                Remember I have told you that I already found my ‘Prince Charming’ and we already planned to spend the rest of our life together?  Now, I will share with you about our preparation. What kind of preparation? Our SAVINGS for the D-day and the days ahead! *excited* :D

                Well, we already being together as a loving couple since April (maybe, Im not so sure because we did not decide any anniversary date for this), and started from May we have decided to plan every single details that are needed for our future. It’s not only about the wedding day itself, its also regarding our life after the ‘ijab Kabul’. Yes, we’re trying our best to prepare everything maturely. I believe that when we prepare for the worst, we will be able to control the situation. So, here we go, our first preparation is the savings. 

                Firstly, we have decided to spend a few amount of our salary, the same amount for me and him, every month. Yes, it’s a good idea, where we already take a few steps ahead to achieve our special mission. But then, the execution was not as smooth as how it should be. We supposed to start from June and by end of this month, we should have some amount of money that can be used later. But the reality shows different thing. We have NO SAVING at all! Yes, NO SAVING for the thing that both of us agreed before. What a shame. :”(

Healthy Life Style?

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This time I would like to share with you about my not-so-healthy-life. Why should I share this? I want to remind my self and you, my lovely readers how important of taking care of our health. No matter how much money we have, not even any cent can buy health, so, let’s take good care of it! :)

                To be honest, I am the kind of person who easily gets sick when I am on a super duper busy work, hectic and tight schedule. Sick here means my body resistant drop to its lowest level and then I just lay on my bed, energy-less. I am not sure whether it’s my body who can’t take it or it’s just that I am not mentally ready for all of that. Or maybe, it’s true that I am not having the best stamina. 

Maaf Lahir Batin

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It's Syawal already (okay, forgive me for this late post) and I would like to say 

"Maaf Lahir Batin"

To everyone who reading this blog. Yes, I would like to ask for my deepest apology to all of you as I may made mistakes in my posts and it's irritate or maybe hurt your feeling. I just wanna say, I did not mean it and it just came out. hhe :p

Let’s Learn to be a Better Muslimah

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                In status quo, it is not that hard to see a lot of numbers of muslim women who are covering their aurah by wearing head scarft. Apart from that, they are also excellent muslim women who has extraordinary achievement. Alhamdulillah, this is a good sign showing that by covering your aurah (most of them are covering their hair) doesn’t mean that you’re covering your brain. :)

                But then, there is a huge trend that is continuously coming up. It is the so called ‘urban hijab’ or popularly known ‘hijab style’. It’s a trend that seems likely a virus that easily get into most of the muslim women and spread it, at a nonstop motion. Yes, I do agree that we should look at things positively; yes I couldn’t agree any more about this. But then, if something that we’re seeing is going into the wrong direction, we should do something right? Alright, before I continue talking about this trend, why don’t we have a look at the guidance of covering our aurah and also some definition in it. 

Let’s Learn to Be a Better Woman (Wife-To-Be Journey)

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                Hey, I am already 23 years old and I am about to get married with the one who loves me and he willing to grow with me through good and bad in order for us to be better. Yup, I am getting married, InsyaAllah when everything is fixed, of course all of my friends will be invited. This is a good thing; this is a huge pray, so I keep on telling myself that I should prepare myself for this one huge dream. :) 

                As I grow older, supposedly I should grow more mature right? But I am not so sure if I do grow maturely now. Pretty bad, but then at least I do realize that there are quite so many things need to be fixed. But for sure, the first thing that is needed in order for a better life with him in my future life, I should do something. Positive changes, I will call it. 

                For some people who know me since ages, they might realize that I have a very low level of patience. Yup, I am not that kind of soft hearted individual who will stay calm at most of the situation, especially when I am mad. I do not have a good self control for my anger. Well, I believe that anger and patience are two brothers who are related to each other and it suppose to be under control. ALWAYS. And because of that, in status quo, I am in the changing process of having better self control.

A Moment For a Self Reflection

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                This time I would like to share about two different things, but somehow both of the things are really matter to me. It is really important in terms of self actualization, self reflection, in order of myself to be a better person in the future. :)

 

                First of all I would like to share with you guys that I already decided to not submit any of registration form and the requirements for Community College Initiative Program 2014. Why? This important decision has been made due to certain important reasons. The big questions come out :

Catch Your Dream!

                When talking about dream, I believe it will be so close to our passion. It is the thing exactly we want, even I know sometimes (most of the times) it’s not easy to be reached. But one thing for sure, nothing is impossible. 

Muslimah World 2013 : First Phase Selection

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I hope all of you are doing fine and have a great day. While me, as usual, always enjoying every moment of work, life and of course, love. Hehe ;) 

This time, I want to share with you about my participation in an event that is looking for a Muslimah Role Model. The event is Muslimah World 2013 and it was founded in 2010 by Ibu Eka Shanty. The main intention of this event is to provide a platform for a muslimah, of course those who are wearing khimar or hijab (as famously known) to inspire one another and learn to be better from time to time. I personally did not see this as a competition, but I think this event is purely to provide more support for talended, smart and sholeha muslimah to stands out and show what they got. 

Am I Ready??

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Let’s get to the point. The main purpose of posting this brand new blog update. The title of this post is a question. Obviously, the question is directly for myself. Hhe :p 

Im not sure how to start it, but here it goes. Am I ready for the next phase of my life? Am I ready to be committed in a marriage institution? Am I ready to spend my life later, the whole of my life with someone I just knew about a month ago? Am I really doing this? 

Yes.

As simple as that. I am doing it. I have built a commitment to it. And I will fight for it.

Well, the wedding and everything will not be happened this year, we have decided in 2015 just how I planned my year of my own wedding and it’s gonna be on February 14^th, most likely 20 months from now. 

Just don’t be shocked. Or don’t laugh at me. Just pray for it. Pray that we are meant to be together and the upcoming days are worth to wait. Aaamiin ;’)

Why starts from the very beginning I have trusted this person? I just met him, out of so many Schlumberger’s male trainee, and employee, why HIM?? And out of so many man in Indonesia, why HIM??

The truth is, when he first tried to get close to me, I showed some kind of rejection. I’m just showing that

‘hey boy, this heart is already broken into pieces and it’s not easy to put it back together and if you just wanna play, just go away’

But what he did? He keeps on putting a lot of efforts. Just to get to know me. I can feel that. I was lucky. If I wasn’t away for my training in Kuala Lumpur, I might not know that he really have half of his heart for me. I’ve told you right, we never really talked to each other. And suddenly he fell for me. God scenario is far better than people could ever imagine. 

 

You might ask ‘why wait until 20 months’??

People, this thing is not as easy as I ever thought. For that one fine and special day, others are preparing for months and years. A lot of processes need to be done. A lot of budget needs to be prepared. A lot of things that need to be combined just for that day. 

Well, I’m not planning to have a ‘wedding of the year’. Hahahaha WHO AM I?? :P But, I just want to have that D-day all prepared by both of us, just both of us. We do not want to burden our parents, especially it regarding money problem. 

The first reason that we will wait for that 20 months, just because in status quo, both of us are trainee in the biggest oil & gas services company. We’re already a permanent employee, but unfortunately we have to undergo a year of ‘green hat’ before we can have a breakout and get our ‘white hat’. The most important thing, once we breakout, we will have more money for savings. Thus, our preparation will be smoother. Oh ya, not to forget, both of us already agreed to start savings from now (the maximum budget has been decided and we share 50-50 cost of it) until next 20 months. Or maybe 15 months, until the lamaran process. 

Secondly, we’re preparing our self for the marriage itself. Not just the wedding. Yup, being a husband and wife needs knowledge and preparation. We know that we might not get the real experience, but then again, preparation before the next phase of our life is really important. At least, we’re more mature in facing the situation, especially newlywed’s problems. I have proposed the idea to him for us to join a pre-wedding seminar. And he agreed. So, hopefully after we can have our vacation we will attend a pre-wedding seminar. If you do have any information about that, pleeeeaaassseeeee inform me. hhe :D

So, how’s the plan to  achieve that special mission? 

1. SAVINGS, SAVINGS, SAVINGS! Top list of priority. Hhe :D

2. I will meet his family in Belitung Island in December. Why his family first? Because he just got back after school in the US (which I still envy about this until now) and I just started to have my vacation. His hometown is super beautiful! :)))

3. He will meet my parents in Kuala Lumpur around March/April next year. Hopefully he already available for vacation. :)))

4. Lamaran & engagement – 3 or 6 months before February. Which one better, will go first. :D

5. The D-Day – 14^th February 2015 (Nikah) Actually I want the akad and reception in one day, but if it creates more harm than good, let’s make it in two different days. So the reception on the 15^th. I didn’t chose the date because of Valentines, because I never celebrate it, but it’s all coincidence when we are looking for the date. ;)

*all of the dates starting from lamaran till D-day is still tentative. Still need to discuss with our big family for advise* 

That is our plan. Hopefully Allah will bless us for what we are doing. This good intention to have two individual on a marriage institute, to have two big families to become one, hopefully everything will be just fine.

Yes, I realize that human’s plan but Allah’s decide. And we, as a human don’t know exactly what will happen even in next seconds. No need to worry, if we let Allah writes the scenario for us, InsyaAllah we will be very happy to accept the things that will be given to us. Aamiin….

So, my dearest blogworld, please pray for me and my future husband, Agent W. Please pray for our best.

Dekatkanlah…. Segerakanlah… Lancarkanlah…..

Note : I’m not posting this to ‘mempermalukan diri sendiri kalau ga jadi’ but I just want to share something good, which is a good progress in my relationship with him. I have a nightmare experience before and I’m not hoping to repeat another same history. I hope all of you will pray for the very best of us, our journey. If it’s meant to be, it will be. :’)

Amiin…. :)

-MS-

Hey Lelaki Idaman!

Assalamualaikum & hello my blogworld! :D

Saya yakin teman-teman pasti punya kriteria lelaki idama yang pengen dijadiin pendamping hidup kelak. Biasanya sih ya, ciwi-ciwi manis (azik) pasti ada list yang panjangnya berkilo-kilometer demi seorang pangeran masa depan. Hihihi :P

Well, saya sendiri sebenarnya termasuk orang yang punya list spesifikasi tertentu untuk calon pasangan hidup. Kenapa? Simple. Semua orang punya keinginan. Dan keinginan itu pasti banyak. Maka, terciptalah buku diary anak-anak sewaktu zaman SMP-SMA yang menuliskan impian pernikahan ala tuan putrid negri kayangan dengan pangeran gagah perkasa. (map bahasanya rada lebay) haha. 

Berbicara tentang spesifikasi, pastinya list yang saya buat itu cukup jelas. Kriteria seperti apa yang saya maukan dari seorang laki-laki yang akan berjalan bangga bersama saya nanti. Seperti apa? Coba cek ini :

1. Harus lebih pintar dari saya.

2. Harus lebih tinggi dari saya.

3. Hidungnya harus lebih mancung dari saya. Okefine. -___-

4. Harus mengerti apa yang saya mau walaupun saya ga ngomong. Emang feeling detector?

5. Harus bisa ngasih semuanya yang saya minta. Even kalau minta bulan sekalipun. LEBAY

6. Harus mapan. Punya rumah, kendaraan. Minimal motor deh. TERLALU

……..

The list goes on, sampai ke permintaan yang paling di dunia. Semua list itu ada sampai saya berumur 22 tahun. Yup, setahun yang lalu sebelum semuanya berubah. Seiring bertambahnya usia, level kedewasaan yang juga semakin meningkat, saya hanya mampu ketawain diri sendiri dengan ‘list anak kecil’ yang saya buat itu. Well, emang sih, ga salah punya impian seperti itu. But then, saya harus NGACA! Wong saya juga ga cantik-cantik amat, ga kaya juga, emang ada yang mau? Hahahahaha -___-

 

Enggak, bukan karena alasan saya ga cantik, saya ga kaya, saya ga pintar atau saya enggak yang lainnya. Semuanya adalah faktor kesadaran. Kesadaran akan hal yang jauh lebih penting dari sekedar pasangan yang kaya, cakep, pintar dan sebagainya. 

In the end of the day, saya sadar yang saya butuh dari seorang lelaki yang akan mendampingi saya kelak adalah :

1. Bertanggungawab. Berani membuktikan apa yang sudah dikatakan.

2. Beriman. Baik agamanya dan bisa membimbing saya.

3. Jujur. Sekali bohong, sudah saya coret dari kata-kata ‘Calon’ deh.

4. Menyayangi kedua orang tua. Orang tuanya dan orang tua saya. 

5. Tetap bertahan di samping saya, sesulit apapun kondisinya.

 

Sudah. Hanya itu. Ga ada lagi ciri-ciri fisik yang saya inginkan. Ga ada lagi materi yang saya kejar. Ga ada lagi keingingan ga penting yang saya utamakan. 

Karena saya menyadari bahwa fisik itu hanyalah sementara. Siapa tau dia kecelakan dan fisiknya berubah? Apakah kita yang dulu mencintainya setengah mati akan tetap setia dengannya saat hidungnya hilang? Enggak, ini bukan lelucon. Tapi ini adalah kenyataan yang harus kita fikirkan sebagai refleksi diri. 

Lalu jika kita memilih seseorang karena materi yang dia punya, apakah kita akan tetap mendampinginya dengan susah payah saat dia kehilangan rumah dan mobil mewahnya lalu terbelit hutang? 

Entahlah. Saya tidak sempurna dan tidak pernah mencoba untuk menjadi sempurna. Yang bisa saya lakukan hanyalah memberikan sepenuh hati dengan ikhlas kepada pendamping hidup saya nanti. 

Sudah ada orang yang menjatuhkan hatinya kepada saya pun sudah lebih dari bersyukur. Apalagi dia sudah mempunyai keinginan untuk mempersatukan kami dengan ikatan yang sah nanti. 

Semoga dikasih jalan dan dilancarkan sama Allah. Aamiin ;’)

-MS-

6 Months

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Don't get shock after reading the title for this post. This time, I will share with you about my 6 months experience of working. Yup, I believe most of you already know Im working in which company right? So no need to explain a lot about this company then. hhe :D

Alright, first of all, I am really grateful to Allah SWT for His blessings I can directly sign a working contract just after may graduation day. I believe that, everything that happened to me already written by Him and I am walking the path on my life story. 

This upcoming May 16th, I will have 6 month seniority working with this company as permanent employee as Lab Technician Trainee. As s Diploma holder, I was hired as a Grade 07 employee and receive spectacular amount of salary (for a Diploma fresh graduate, its a WOW!). Every month, I receive basic salary + geographical coefficient (basic x % of GC = % added of basic salary), housing & transportation allowance. Alhamdulillah, in this half a year of working I can do a bit of savings, help my parents and fulfill my own needs. :D

Apart from that, I also get a lot of benefits. By joining this company, I was able to attend two different trainings at two different city. Firstly, I attend OFS1 training, where the main purpose of this is to introduce about the company to all of the new employee. The venue for this training was at The Park Lane Hotel, Jakarta. As someone who grow up from a very 'limited source of money' to live, this luxury hotel was a heaven for me. hhe ^^

Well, I am grateful enough to be there. The hotel, the food, new friends, good instructor, it's too much if Im not thankful right? ;)

Then, I also attended Basic Laboratory Training for Cementing in Kuala Lumpur. Where the purpose of this training is related directly with work as Lab Technician. The training was held in Rohas Perkasa Building, where Schlumberger located in Kuala Lumpur. The reason why I have to go there for my training, not in other countries, because for Asia & Middle East Laboratory, the centre is in KL, so I don't have any other choice. At one point, I do envy those who can go to US, Paris etc for their training, but then, I believe everywhere is also good. Hopefully I can still go to overseas, even if it's not for training, purely holidays. hhe :P

The journey in this company just started. Im still a green hat employee, still need a lot to explore and still have to focus on my career development. Am I really want to build my later career here? Just wait and see ;)

-MS-